Friends With Benefits Is An Oxymoron

  “Friends with benefits” is an oxymoron. Exactly what benefits do you have in a situation like this?

You don’t have the benefit of being long term friends, because the sex always gets in the way. There are some  “friends with benefits” situations, although fewer than you would think where both parties do not want more, neither hopes it becomes more, and the situation ends on a positive note. So who is really benefiting from this arrangement?

  “Friends with benefits” rarely, if ever, leads to a healthy relationship. So those entering into situations like this hoping it will lead to more are disappointed and hurt when it doesn’t turn out as they hoped. People who think they can use each other for meaningless sex and keep their friendship intact are deluding themselves because the friendship almost always ends badly. What kind of friend wants to use you for sex but doesn’t like you enough to try a relationship with you? Not a very good one! What kind of friend thinks that you should let someone (even them) use you for sex? A real friend? No. So not only are there no real benefits, but there is no real friendship either. If the two of you are “such good friends” why would you risk losing the friendship for sex?

  So is the term “friends with benefits” a less offensive way of describing a booty-call? Yeah, that sounds about right, considering they are pretty much one and the same. Both can be defined as casual sex with no strings attached. (And almost always someone wanting more, but getting hurt in the end).

SOUNDS AWESOME DOESN’T IT? < —note: sarcasm

  So who came up with this “friends with benefits” crap and decided to try and make it a mainstream “good idea”? (Also, please tell me why it seems to be working while you are at it.) Who is it that really “benefits” here? People that want to use other people for sex and have no strings attached. That’s who.

  I guess it just sounds better to some people to have a person tell them they want to be friends with benefits than to simply say I want to have sex with you and maybe hang out with you a little here and there but that is it. It may sound better, but it still sucks and is disrespectful. Why aren't people more insulted when someone offers them something as lame as this? If some guy walked up to you and told you “Hey, I want to get you in the sack but am offering you nothing but alleged friendship” wouldn't you think “What a FREAK!”? And wouldn't you also feel insulted while contemplating stomping his nuts into powder? You should! Being offered the “friends with benefits” package of bullshit should make you think and feel the same way. That is bad enough coming from a stranger, but from your friend? What kind of friends do you have for God’s sakes?

Believe it or not 'friends with benefits' is an oxymoron.